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Are you or a friend currently working in the sex industry? I just want to let you know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Whether you are an internet model, exotic dancer, porn star, escort, outcall, or prostitute--we all have felt at one time or another that eventually someone always wants use/get something from us.
In the beginning of sex work, we hide our feelings deep down inside of us to mask what we feel, because let's face truth-it's a way to avoid feelings of shame and to cover up the pain.
We become the greatest actresses of all time, and often times we are such great actresses, that we should seriously get an oscar! Let me tell you something girls, one of the greatest lies that we can live is to tell others that we LOVE what we do for a living. But the greatest of all lies is to actually believe that lie ourselves!
We begin to deny that it is a bad profession. When you work in the sex industry, we tend to rationalize everything, don't we?
Yes--You like the money and you want to go to college-but do you love the way that the smelly, hairy men grab at you like you are some kind of object and piece of meat to abuse? Although you've been hit, choked and beaten while having sex, It's not rape if he pays for it, right?
You love your boyfriend, because he doesn't mind what you do--at least that's what he says anyway. Although your "boyfriend" has now started to live off of you, coerce, slap and threaten you-he tells you that NO one will ever really love you, because you are a sex worker. AND, if you don't don't go and "get that money" your relationship on the rocks!
Or how about this-you don't want to let your others know, but your boyfriend is now a pimp, so if you now have came to the realization that:
No money=no relationship. No freedom. No real money of your own-he controls everything: From where you go, what you wear, who you talk to/see, and what you do.
But you won't leave him, no matter how bad he treats you--because you know that one day he will finally change, because you just need to prove your love for him and help him. He told you that you both will retire soon, and live happily ever after, right? After all, just because he takes your money and beats you, doesn't mean he doesn't LOVE you...
You like how powerful it makes you feel to be in control of your "career" because you know that you can get in and out quick, and no one will be the wiser that you ever were a sex worker! You DID say that you would only do it for a few months, or years, didn't you? But time has flown by so fast! It's now month/years down the road and you wonder what happened to the promise that you made with yourself to get out quick? Now you are STUCK.
You say that you don't feel anything and that it doesn't really bother you to sleep with all kinds of different men but for some reason, now you are partaking in recreational drugs to keep you "up" and ready with a good attitude while you work. Your friends start to ask you if you are addicted. You claim that since you don't do it several times a day, your not addicted, you're merely doing it only for recreation purposes. Besides, you're against drugs!
The day comes when you wake up at a dead end road, with your entire life shattered around you. You look in the mirror and ask yourself "Who am I, and how did I get here?" You are confused, lonely but most of all desperate to find true love, happiness and peace.
Because to be honest, the REAL TRUTH is, that you cannot stand turning one more trick--you are tired and don't want to even go to work anymore! You are depressed. Rejected. Beat down. Ashamed. Regretful. Sad. Broken. Fearful. Ready to give up-and end it all.
But you have no one, nothing, and no where to go. You are trapped with invisible bars with no key to get out.
So let's be real with each other-we don't like it one bit when it comes down to it, do we ladies?
If you are at this place right now, please contact us. God LOVES you so much--and you are not alone!
We are here to help you. To be your friend, pray for you and help you find a way out.
Please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Or Call 702-883-5155
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